"Some friends slip away because they don't agree with the path you are taking, and this is fine, it is all a part of growth, as change is the only thing that is constant. But, if you are able to grow closer despite having alternate-perhaps opposing-perspectives, I believe this will only add to the richness of both of your lives.
If, however, you grow bitter or resentful of someone for changing, maybe you weren't friends with them for the right reasons. I would try to practice a little more selflessness, and have a little more faith in humanity. Know that people are wise enough to know what's good for them, and maybe look a little deeper than surface level. There are methods to madness too, you know." -Norell
One response to this that I received was,
"Maybe, it's not the change we see in our friends that causes distance, but rather them straying from who they truly are, (the person that had qualities and ideas that made you like them in the first place), that makes some people distance themselves, because it hurts to see the person that was their friend slipping away, trying to be someone they're not, or just turning into someone you would have never been associated with in the first place....."
My response to this?
"Thank you, because this is my point exactly. Perhaps what you see in
them is but a projection of how you would like them to be. A selfish want
for someone to match the criteria you've set for expectations in
friendship. The ideal friend, a perfect friend, who does not stray from the definition we have filed them under in our database of others.
Imagine this, we call someone a friend but then later decide that they no
longer possess the qualities that attracted us to them in the first place,
but that we base this decision soley upon a new path he or she may be
taking-one that wakes us up, freeing us of the illusion we created with our minds, the illusion that we know exactly who that person is... Weren't we
being judgemental-even unfair-to them for placing such limitations and restrictions upon them in this so called friendship? We judge them because
they dare to take an unfamiliar path and challenge certain viewpoints and thereby stray beyond what you thought you had them figured out to be?"
Thoughts?
If, however, you grow bitter or resentful of someone for changing, maybe you weren't friends with them for the right reasons. I would try to practice a little more selflessness, and have a little more faith in humanity. Know that people are wise enough to know what's good for them, and maybe look a little deeper than surface level. There are methods to madness too, you know." -Norell
One response to this that I received was,
"Maybe, it's not the change we see in our friends that causes distance, but rather them straying from who they truly are, (the person that had qualities and ideas that made you like them in the first place), that makes some people distance themselves, because it hurts to see the person that was their friend slipping away, trying to be someone they're not, or just turning into someone you would have never been associated with in the first place....."
My response to this?
"Thank you, because this is my point exactly. Perhaps what you see in
them is but a projection of how you would like them to be. A selfish want
for someone to match the criteria you've set for expectations in
friendship. The ideal friend, a perfect friend, who does not stray from the definition we have filed them under in our database of others.
Imagine this, we call someone a friend but then later decide that they no
longer possess the qualities that attracted us to them in the first place,
but that we base this decision soley upon a new path he or she may be
taking-one that wakes us up, freeing us of the illusion we created with our minds, the illusion that we know exactly who that person is... Weren't we
being judgemental-even unfair-to them for placing such limitations and restrictions upon them in this so called friendship? We judge them because
they dare to take an unfamiliar path and challenge certain viewpoints and thereby stray beyond what you thought you had them figured out to be?"
Thoughts?
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